It is up to you to decide what makes a wedding feel great. It is rather an emotional matter. Should the wedding planning process be smooth and stress-free? Should the wedding venue, food, drinks and music be perfect? Do you want everyone to come and celebrate together? Organize a wedding and party that you and your guests will remember for the rest of your lives? Proudly tell your children about your experience?
Before you start planning a wedding, ask each other: what makes a wedding successful for you? How do you envision your own wedding? If achieved, what are the most important aspects that will make it perfect the next day too? Once you have the common ground, you are ready to lay the foundations.
Once you’ve done that, do a little survey among your circle of friends. Ask your married family members, friends, colleagues about the following. What is the first memory you have of your wedding? How did you feel that day? How was the wedding planning? These questions should only be asked to people close to you, otherwise you will only get superficial answers: everything was great, it was good, we had the perfect wedding, etc. Over the last ten years I have asked this question to many friends and acquaintances, and I have received very different, but challenging answers. What I have observed is that, even after several years, they remember the best moments and the hardest and worst moments with great accuracy.
Which negative memories do you usually have? A whole article could be written on these answers, but the most common ones are:
- – I had no idea it would take so much time and effort to organize a wedding. We had no time for anything else besides wedding planning, sometimes not even for each other. It all seemed like a never-ending project.
- – We fought a lot during the wedding planning. We couldn’t agree on a lot of things, and sometimes my husband/wife-to-be was really annoying me.
- – We got lost in the tasks, and in the end it all became a hustle. It felt like it would never end, besides, there was always more to do.
- – I couldn’t wait for the wedding to be over and for it all to be over. The stress and tension of the wedding planning was taking its toll on our relationship.
- – We did not estimate the costs correctly, the wedding cost more than we expected at the beginning. We really should have chosen a wedding photographer.
- – Dinner was too long, and we had little time to party.
- – The music was not right, hardly any guests left after the midnight menu.
- – Too bad we didn’t have someone pay the service team, we were running around with envelopes all night.
- – If I could go back in time, I wouldn’t go it by myself, I would hire a professional wedding planner and do a lot of things differently.
- – “I can hardly remember the wedding day, only that I had a lot of tasks to do: everyone called me if they had a problem, one guest didn’t know where and when to come, there was a problem with the seating in the restaurant: a guest’s name was missing from the seating card, the DJ didn’t arrive on time, he called me to ask me where to put what, where the ceremony was… all of which I had to solve while they were doing my make-up and my partner was getting dressed. “
The most important thing to remember is that the best and worst memories of your wedding planning and wedding will stay with you for a lifetime. What would you like to remember? A happy, joyful day with family and friends, or a rushed, hectic wedding?
When planning a wedding, we always try to avoid negative events. How is this possible? Through precise, experienced wedding planning, conscious organization and execution.
Wedding planning is a bit like designing and building a house. You can entrust yourself to an experienced and reliable contractor, who will keep everything under one roof and help you get the house you want. Or you can go it alone, if you have the energy to contact all the professionals one by one, brainstorm ideas, plan the process, manage costs, check, manage, evaluate, coordinate, and have plenty of time, energy and patience. And of course your partner is involved in sharing the tasks.
Wedding planning is a complex task, but there’s nothing fiendish about it. You can still have a great wedding without a wedding planner if you know that the next six months to a year will be about it, with all the pros, cons and pitfalls. That said, I would definitely recommend one or two helpers to do the final coordination for you on your wedding day.
The secret to a successful wedding and planning is to assess your own and your partner’s needs and expectations, talk a lot. Once you have your goal of what memories and experiences you want, plan everything accordingly, with or without a wedding planner.
Have a successful wedding planning!
Author: Kinga
